Anyone can write a story about people addressing and going after their desires,
few people can do it in such a real setting as Steve Almond. In fact, as I
realized just how real he portrays his characters I didn’t expect to learn much
from this lecture. I have to admit and apologize for the fact that I started
this lecture with a prejudice set in my mind, this started when he first said
the line “there will be fucking”. I saw a crudeness that blocked me from really
feeling his words and looking beyond the imagery that was produced. He forced
my mind to see two different scenarios in his readings. One story was about two
people of very average appearance sloppily pushing together in the throes of
passion and another was about skull fucking a girl without an eye. However, at
the end of the first story you learn that part of the reason why the woman was
so sloppy was the fact that she had a disease which impaired her coordination.
This made me stop and think about what Almond was actually saying by putting these
average people in a highly romantic situation with very really personas,
desires, and looks. At the end of the second story with the question and answer
session I was further relieved of my prejudice when he talked about how he
wanted to give real emotions and feelings to a subject as private and taboo as
skull fucking. Now I understand what Steve Almond was trying to teach me about
how realness is nothing to be afraid of. We should not lie to ourselves by have
unrealistic expectations towards any sort of life experience, especially sex.
The beauty of his writing is in the reality.
The first thing I
learned from Steve Almond, once I stopped feeling a prejudice was an awareness
of myself. I learned that I had this prejudice which kept me from really
listening to the story. I had a prejudice against normalcy because when he
started telling us about an imperfect summer romance I stopped wanting to see
the normalcy of the people, the extremely flawed people that made up this
story. This prejudice showed me that I need to be more open to the fact that
people don’t fit perfectly into my criteria of what is normal is not normal.
When I believe someone to be below me I need to stop, figure out why I think
that, and then stop thinking that way. These imperfect people are more normal
than most of the images I strive to replicate when I usually watch a movie or
read a book.
I also learned that I
need to be honest about how I see the world. This is one criterion of the
things that Steve Almond said makes a good writer, the ability to tell the
world the truth even when most people don’t want to hear it. People don’t want
to hear about the truth of life and how messy and revealing true desire and
passion really is. We want the fantasy where good
writing doesn't matter as long as the girl gets to be with the boy
and they find some sort of sanctuary in each other. Realistically at the end of
a relationship you don’t look back at a perfect relationship that ended for out
there, crazy reasons, such as they became a vampire or the got murdered.
Usually you split up for normal reasons such as they expected too much from you
or they weren't the prince charming you expected. It is normal look
at past relationships as a lesson, a stepping stone towards your desired
ultimate happiness (this usually occurs after all the depression, eating of
brownies, and thinking that you’re going to die alone). Although we love
the unrealistic stories it is just not true that the supermodel is going to
fall anyone who is below average looking and socially awkward. These fantasies
ultimately only produce unhappiness from our normalcy. Steve Almond celebrates
normalcy in all aspects; job, friends, desires, and love. There is something
wrong with the fact that we are content behind our fantasies of perfection
where sex is clean and love is pure.